Love first. Lead second. Litigate last.

Every community will face conflict. Someone will feel wronged. Someone will break the rules. Someone will test your boundaries.

How you handle it determines everything.

Love is your default move. Assume good intent. Give people grace. Most conflicts dissolve with a genuine conversation and willingness to understand.

Lead when love isn't enough. Be clear about your standards. Show why those standards matter. Help people see how their actions affected others. Give them a path back to belonging.

Litigate only when nothing else works. When someone is repeatedly harming the community. When their presence is incompatible with your culture. When all other options are exhausted.

But most conflicts never get there. Because you led with love.

Your job as the builder is to hold the culture. To protect the space. To make it safe for the right people. That means being willing to have hard conversations. To set boundaries. To say no.

It also means assuming the best of people first. Giving them chances. Creating pathways for redemption.

Love Lead Litigate isn't a legal framework. It's a philosophy. A way of showing up that says "We care about you AND we care about this community."

When you operate from love, people feel it. When you lead with clarity, people respect it. When you litigate, people understand why.

Get the order right and your community will thrive.